Pornography brings guilt and shame, but not to all. Some have no issue with it whatsoever. My goodness, what have we become? ♦
I once heard a pastor talk about the time he was counselling a young Christian college student who was feeling distant from God. “I simply asked him,” the pastor said, “So how long have you been sleeping with your girlfriend?”
Pretty strong question. Stopped the kid in his tracks apparently.
Perhaps not such a strong question today, even for Christians, given the social climate. A better one these days might be: “So when’s the last time you looked at porn?”
The Big Guilt
Pornography is not a faith-killer. It’s a big separator. It separates one from a relationship with God not because one is sinful but because one feels guilty in one’s sinfulness and so hides from God. Like Adam hiding from God in Genesis 3.
The problem today is that men, women, and children are easily exposed to pornography through mobile and desktop devices. Once exposed, the damage is done and only through proactive attention and effort can the mind, will, and heart be reigned in and controlled.
But by then the big guilt / big separation is already in play. One feels like withdrawing, laden with guilt and shame.
And that’s just the Christian who has to rebound from thoughts of dark unworthiness.
No Harm, No Foul?
What about the rest of the world? A recent study of college students found 67% of men and 49% of women believed viewing pornographic materials is an acceptable way to express one’s sexuality. Another study showed 51% of male students and 32% of female students first viewed pornography before they were 12 years old.1
How does one, without any motivation or even guilt-conviction to pull oneself out the sewer, survive the ravages of pornography on the heart, mind and soul?
It’s a quiet disaster destroying the culture and a generation lost in their blissful, secular hedonism and Biblical ignorance.
Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools. (Romans 1:22)
6 Final Reasons to NOT Use Pornography
In the last 2 weeks’ Biblical Viewpoint posts I listed Reasons 1-6 and 7-12 to not use pornography. Recently this Christian View of Pornography2 list was boldly addressed and published by Westgate Church in Saratoga and San Jose, California.
Here are final Reasons #13 through #18:
- Reason #13 – An affair of the mind is the same as infidelity with another women. Generally, men have the attitude that looking at pornography is a “lesser sin” or not the same as have a sexual encounter with a woman. Most women don’t see it that way. They don’t compartmentalize into different categories like men do. For most women, an affair of the mind is the same as infidelity with another woman.
- Reason #14 – Porn destroys families. Marriages with porn problems have less intimacy and sensitivity. Porn use increases the likelihood of infidelity. Children of porn users experience less parental involvement.
- Reason #15 – Porn results in unhealthy selfishness and lack of self-control. These actions are selfish in that they prioritize yourself and your needs over others. The longer you engage in porn, it results in increasing selfishness and lack of self-control. This often spills over into other areas of relationships that cause relational destruction. Selfishness is not an attractive character trait if you are trying to enter into a healthy relationship.
- Reason #16 – Pornography is the gateway to, and drives sex trafficking. According to case studies and reports from Shared Hope International, Harvard Law School, pornography is the purchase of humans initially via photographs and film. The next step is to purchase a real person. Prostitution, massage parlors that permit sex and other forms of human purchase are driven by the need for sex. Many of the porn stars, especially the under aged, started out as sex slaves. According to Professor Katherine Mackinon of Harvard Law School “consuming pornography is an experience of bought sex, and thus it creates a hunger to continue to purchase and objectify, and act out what is seen. … traffickers and pimps use pornographic images of victims as specific advertising for their products.”
- Reason #17 – Porn can lead you astray. Deuteronomy 17:17(a) definitely applies (See Matthew 5:28). A pornographic image, especially with “acting out”, to your mind is no different than actually having sexual relations. (Also see Reason #13).
- Reason #18 – Porn can lead you to have a spiritual tie with another person. Many addicts gather what are called “spiritual soul ties” that were originally and specifically designed only for the sacrament of marriage. When a person has a sexual encounter, he/she is actually making a spiritual bond with that person that was designed wholly for only sexual relations between a husband and a wife.
Again, for Reasons 1-12 see the 2 previous Biblical Viewpoint posts.
The Answer: the Good Father and Master
Regardless of our dark guilt and past separation from God – be it from porn or being human – we are granted full immunity and forgiveness once we come in full acknowledgement of our sinful standing before our Good Father and Master.
“You call me ‘Master’ and ‘Lord,’ and rightly so, for that is what I am.” (John 13:13)
Christ, God incarnate, has wiped out the evil past, present and future. Like a Good Father/Master, He has modeled a life of obedience. We can begin anew and follow Him to a fresh life of good health and productive fruit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”
1 Pornography Statistics (2015 Edition), by CovenantEyes.com.
2 Westgate Church, Saratoga, CA, also Divine Sex, by Jonathan Grant, and Wired for Intimacy, by William Struthers.
Are you living a healthy life?
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. – Galatians 5:22-23